Meetings through internet
It’s not a virtual world...
Internet meetings were called virtual communication by someone... But believe me virtual world and meetings online are two different concepts. Meetings in the internet are not a role play. We meet real people and this means real feelings, offends, joy and disappointment. So, thoughtless approach to meetings online is fraught with consequences.
Rash and unserious behavior of some people in internet meetings can be explained only by one: here it’s only my nick name, I can put picture of my friend... but communication is real. And it’s you who communicate not your nick name and picture.
Meetings online is the same correspondence of last century by mail. Just there’s one serious difference which makes these meetings more attractive.
Communicating for a long time, you can be guaranteed from real intrusion into your life. You can give your address and phone number only when you are sure that your internet meeting requires logical continuation in real meeting, when you are sure that your interlocutor online is that person he seems to be.
In this change from online meeting to real meeting there’s special charm and intrigue.
And again about safety
Internet gives illusion of being anonymous and safe but if not to be cautious you can lose incognito and become a victim of pursuit of mentally unbalanced admirer. So don’t forget about common sense if you don’t want this to happen.
Our advice will help you to avoid unpleasant consequences of internet meetings:
Don’t give your name
While you only begin to get to know people, don’t use your real name, main emails, personal website or home address. The most visitors of this site have the same purpose but some have other plans. Friends by correspondence shouldn’t know who you are till you feel comfortable with them. If somebody presses upon you to get your personal data before you are ready, it’s better to stop communication with this person.
Keep up with coherence
Pay attention to stories of those you communicate with, check if facts are changed: age, work, education, other details. As it’s possible that you are deceived. If you are on alert, you can avoid unnecessary problems.
If you have already found a friend and communicate with him for some time, you can talk on the phone. Just remember that your phone number can be determined. Phone talk will give you more about person’s qualities. It’s an easy means to value the situation before you want to meet in person.
Ask for a picture
Look at the picture before meeting. Be sure that this is the person you’re corresponding with and it’s the same as he described himself. And it’s better to ask for several pictures taken in different situations.
Meet at a safe place
If you decide to meet in real life be careful... Go to the place that there are many people about... So, if something goes not the way you like or if you want to go away earlier, then you can easily escape. Come and go away from the first meeting by yourself. And before going there please tell your family or friend where you are going to and describe the person you’ll meet just in case.
And at last: of course it doesn’t worth making safety measures paranoiac but if you think of your personal safety and pay some attention to, it will keep you from much trouble that could happen.
What would you like to find at dating sites?
It’s not easy to find your second half at dating sites as well as in real life. But who speaks that it’s not real? In fact, it’s as simple as at the same time difficult. How to choose the dating site or search category that will answer your interests? It’s better to use the experience of people who are real “professionals” in meetings and can share their experience with anyone who wish it.
At fist you should define: what for have your decided to search for happiness?
1. Variant 1. Everything is good in personal life but you feel you lack something. In this case it’s better to limit yourself to romantic correspondence – there are always people who wish to feel virtual love!
2. Variant 2.
You are looking for real spicy feelings but you are not ready for serious steps.
Don’t doubt you are not alone in your search for one night – there are always such lovers in this world. But be honest and show limits of your search just in case, it will keep you from further disappointments.
3. Variant 3. You have serious intentions for the search of your second half.
Be ready that this search will take much more time then the other two variants. Write more information about yourself, be open and benevolent, don’t reject those who will knock to you – perhaps you won’t find out your happiness at once!
The most important is to believe in success and love life. Dating sites is only an instrument which will help to find love for those who believe that virtual reality can turn from fairy-tale into reality!
Don’t be afraid to seek for happiness!
Meetings as a means to lose yourself
Ahs it ever happened that when you are near computer you load your favorite dating site to spend long hours in it? If not then this article is not about you and we are glad for you.
Because for some people internet meetings are like a real drug that substitutes everything else. And this doesn’t limit only by sitting for days in the internet. The behavior changes, you wish to end all other affairs and be occupied with what became so important for you. Sometimes girls even refuse to eat and sleep to spend more time in illusion world where so many men admire you.
If you tell such girl that her state brings alarm to you she will find an explanation that there’s no reason for anxiety: it’s just a means to spend time, the place to communicate with friends and she enjoys it making fun of admirers. It can be part of the truth but only part. The whole truth is that she sacrifices reality for illusions.
It’s even possible that she have dates with persons from dating sites. But if these dates become unsuccessful each time, and she will go in for illusions communication again, then there’s a reason for worries.
You ask what‘s bad in it? Why not to sit for more hours in comfort and safety at the computer? The bad thing is when reality is substituted by illusions, even such fascinating as internet romance, a person loses a part of himself with these illusions.
What sense to produce an impression on somebody in real life if there are many admirers at dating sites? Why to have serious relations if you can change men several times a day even though not really? And if all this is so cool and pleasant why not to sacrifice dull studies or career? So there’s a risk to lose yourself and just sit at dating sites all life.
What to do if you notice that your friend has such dependence or you have some symptoms? First of all, to offer other forms of activity in life. Walking in the park is better than an evening at the computer. A meeting at the institute or at work, in the street gives you more emotions then any internet meeting and has not less perspectives. It’s enough to remember that dating sites is only means to meet someone important for you. Communicate in reality, life is beautiful!